I spent years being the person everyone came to. I was good at it. I could see what was happening in someone else’s life in about four minutes flat.
My own, I could not see at all. A coach once asked me how easy it was to help other people see themselves. I said it is what I love most. Then she asked how easy it was to see myself. I said it gives me a headache.
I knew the pattern. I could name it. I kept doing it anyway.
What actually changed things was not another book. It was leaving. I packed a car and drove across Mexico alone with my dog, to a country where I did not speak the language, and started again.
I am not recommending anyone do that. Most women do not need to leave the country. What I needed was to find out that I would still be there on the other side of a decision I made for myself.
That is what I help women find now, at whatever scale it takes.